8 posts tagged “love”

i hope to keep this in my mind and heart...

A LESSON

there is dignity in not giving up someone you truly love. but there is more dignity in letting them go so they can experience better love. that shows your true love, you then become unselfish. and through putting others first, unconditional love grows.

there is respect in fighting gallantly to win someone's heart another time. but an even greater respect comes from fighting hard and knowing when to stop even though you would give up anything to have the past back. that person has touched your life in a way that will make your future so much brighter. accept that and hold your head high. knowing you have captured their heart as well. there is courage in allowing your heart to hurt and grieve. but there is a greater courage in knowing that it will be scarred but stronger as time goes on. for whoever caused those scars has made your life better in some way and will make you a better person when you marry because of what the scars taught you.

losing the person who meant the most in your life is a humbling experience, yet it is even more humbling if you allow it to run your life and forsake all you have been blessed with when you feel like you have lost your world. remember how many people depend on you. there is fortitude in holding another on for another chance although an even greater fortitude comes from extending your heart in friendship, realizing you will still share things with that person no one else ever will.

you will always have the looks and jokes and memories. don't ever discount how special those things in your heart and theirs. true love hurts when it is lost but an even greater love grows inside yourself through realization that something better is in the world for both of you. and that there are still things to share with that person, even though some feelings may have changed.

take their hand and help them achieve their hopes and dreams because in that there is dignity, respect, courage, humility, fortitude, and the unconditional love that will continue to grow in both of your hearts.

this is one of my favorite Bob Perks thoughts...

Love is a privilege

It is more than a gift. It is much more than an opportunity and far more than just a moment in time.

Love is a privilege.

Love is the purest form of praise.

Love is the echo of God's wanting us to be more.

It is a part of our obligation to live life fully. To find something in living that gives us such fulfillment and satisfaction that we leave with it a piece of who we are and take from it the essence of ever being near.

To love even a little is to be even more than we could possibly be on our own.

Love need not be passionate.

Love need not be romantic.

Love needs only to fill the gap between the longing for and the finding.

To love a child is to nurture God's plans for the future, to make fertile the seed of hope He has planted.

To love a man is a challenge. Men do not open that door too easily. To be loved in return means he has discovered in you the part that was missing in him. Completeness is the goal.

To love a woman is like a glimpse of heaven. The tenderness of her spirit, the gentleness of her being, the fragrance of her soul must be what lies ahead in the promise of eternal happiness...aaahhh, heaven indeed! To be loved by her is an honor.

To love all living things is to praise the Master for His work.

To love a friend is a thankful act. A giving and return on investment in time.

To love you, having never met you, means I trust that God has brought us together for a reason. To love you, is to love God's plan for you.

Love is a privilege.

 
"I believe in you!"
Bob Perks Bob@BobPerks.com

forgive me for the Tagalog version... i'll translate this into English later.
this was from a friend's forwarded email.

LOVE IS LIKE BASKETBALL PLAYED BY TWO PERSONS.
> dapat give and take ang laro. syempre, one will
> always win, one will always lose. ganon din
> naman sa love di ba? laging merong nagmamahal ng
> higit sa isa. at yung isa laging humahabol. minsan
> may fouls. kasi minsan nagkakasakitan na. no
> relationship is perfect kaya allowed ka hanggang
> 6 fouls. kaso pag fouled out ka na, kelangan mo
> ng humanap ng ibang kalaro. masyado mo kasing
> 'hinaharass' yung kalaro mo.
>
> ganun nga siguro talaga... pag naghahanap ka naman
> ng isang kalaro na ayaw makipaglaro sa yo, para kang
> nagmamahal sa isang tao na di ka mahal. pag meron
> naman dyan na isinasali ka sa laro na ayaw mo, para
> kang hinahabol ng isang tao na di mo naman mahal.
> pero di ba mas mahirap pag pareho niyong gustong
> maglaro kaso di na pwede kasi yung isa sa inyo e
> may kalaro na o kaya pareho kayong may kalaro na?
> hay nako. e sino ba yung referee? ahh.. yung mga
> kaibigan mo na minsan pilit na pinaghihiwalay kayo.
> swerte mo kapag kakampi mo yung referee. kasi di
> ka niya tatawagan ng fouls. kaso yung kalaro mo
> naman.. hurting inside na e di mo pa alam. ang hirap
> intindihin no?
>
> complicated.. para nga talagang love. parang
> basketball. pero siguro dapat natin tandaan.. wag na
> wag lilipat sa ibang court kapag may kalaro ka pa sa
> court mo. mahirap mag double play.
>
> isa lang ang katawan mo. mahirap maglaro sa dalawang
> court. dapat stick to one ka lang. o di ba. mas maayos
> ang game. hay... kelan kaya ako makakahanap ng kalaro
> na di ako iiwan sa court ko?"

just when i thought i'm ok, doing better... here goes a tug on the heartstrings... another relapse.

over the past few days, i'm feeling kinda better over that break up thing. a month had passed, and of course, for the first few weeks, it's acceptable to grieve. there will be times when i would really hate thinking about him. but like what they say, the more you hate, the more you love... or should i say, the more you love, the more you hate?

i came across his page and i saw this girl's testimonial which i admit, had left me hurt, more, again...

you see, it's not that easy... 7 years of loving this guy is really not a joke. we already made plans... he's going back, we'll marry on this date, and so on... we've gone through a lot in life... we've been there for each other through the ups and downs... and sad to say, it must end.

we've been friends like for about 2 years before we became "us". so that adds 2 years to the 7, making it 9 years of memories i have to bury deep.

you know how people say, "girl, you're gonna get through this" or "go on a date" or "you'll be ok" and so on...
arrrrgggghhhh...

i know i'll get through this... i know i'll date again, and have a new relationship eventually. it's just that this phase is really difficult. i sometimes wish i'll have alzheimer's for a while, just to forget all the pain and sadness, so as to let the day pass without remembering a single thing about what happened. or i just wish i was lucy (50 first dates), so whatever happens today on my life will be forgotten tomorrow.

it's just sad how we can hurt the one we love...

i was really looking forward to be with him, eventually. you see we have this long-distance relationship. it's really tough, we've been on and off on our relationship because of the distance factor. both instances have the same reason: he really cannot bear it anymore.

i always tell myself, "i only deserve the best" and i surely do. a friend once told me, "mhoi, tatahi-tahimik ka lang, pero grabe pala pinagdadaanan mo." (translation: "mhoi, you're just being quiet, but you're going through a tough one.")

you know how you can be assured by friends surrounding you, telling you you're gonna be ok, that you'll find someone better, someone who'll love you, and not leave you hanging. surely, i'm so thankful for all the people who are so much supportive. i thank God for all these people and i thank Him for hanging around me and bearing with me.

you can have all the people you need for your support system, but in the end... there's just me, only me, against all these...

ps.
i kept quiet, trying to be quiet, thinking that talking about it will just trigger more pain.
now i'm thinking otherwise... i guess, being more vocal will help, that's why i'm writing more specifically now, unlike on my previous posts, they're just figurative.

would you rather love, then get hurt?
or do you prefer to love, but you don't wanna get hurt?
or you don't want to love anymore?

all my life, i've always believed in the valor of true love...
wherein the other should not hurt the other,
and both persons give and take,
trying to make each other happy,
and that when tough times come,
you two stand strong...
though the other is weaker,
the stronger half supports the weaker,
you get through.
through thick & thin...
you get braver each day,
facing life's obstacles,
knowing you have someone,
who is with you all the way...
and then at some point,
you may be away from the person you love,
but you hope someday you'll get together,
and you hold still on that promise,
on that hope...
that you two could be together...
someday.

but in reality,
pain and hurt and sadness and frustration --
are just all part of it.
true love endures...
but sometimes it simply cannot.
then you think love won't stop...
but then it stops.
you're being told, "i am going to stay...
... through thick and thin"
then next day you know...
you're all alone, just like that,
like a blink of an eye.

so knowing the reality of love...
or finally realizing the truth about LOVE,
would you still wanna fall in love
or love and be loved?
would you still go on,
would you still hope,
would you still look forward
to being loved, again?

i'm just thinking aloud...
'cause deep in my heart, i know...
though hurt and tattered,
i am loving still, and will love again.
someday.

days pass by
i can't quite distinguish
moving on,
had it diminished?
feeling happy
then i'll feel sad, more...
this is a relapse,
sometimes i just abhor...

the process of moving on

stop, go, pause
go, pause, stop
pause, stop, go

going? going, going...
still hanging?
no... yes?

no? yes...
i'm moving on...

for the past few weeks, i am gradually recovering, or so i thought. after all the pain i felt, i just feel so numb. now all i have is just sadness...

it's sad to know that the only permanent thing in this world is change. things change, worse enough, people change most of the time.

it's so sad that in just a snap, everything can change very quickly, lives affected, course was overturned.

contemplating on what had happened lately, i can't help but wonder how fast the days can go by, how fast things can happen. i couldn't wish to turn back the time when things are still ok. i couldn't wish to undo what has been done. it's just so helpless. things were done, words were spoken.

i was born a fighter... i always see things as a challenge. i keep pushing, trying, thinking positively about things. but i guess sometimes you don't have any choice but to choose to rest... thinking you have already done what you could, thinking you did your best, but still things happened unexpectedly.

before, given this kind of situation, i would spend my time thinking about what needs to be done, planning about what i should do next. right now, i am so tired of everything... i guess when the heart gets weary and when the mind gets too contained... all you could ever wish for is to escape away all the world that drives you crazy and lonely.

i was actually kidding earlier, i told my colleague at work that i wish i had alzheimer's for a short time, so i can just forget things, rest for a while. well, that isn't a nice thought though... wouldn't it be better if i just have a short term memory, so i can just suffer then forget what i'm suffering for, or even forget that i am grieving (soft of).

now i just wanna rest, and pray, and hope that eventually everything will be alright, that i will soon be healed (and him too).

tomorrow i will still be taking risks, and i know, i'm a better person than i was before.

i am loving still, and will be.

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as usual...
i'm singing this song once again...
be PATIENT, lol.
some words of wisdom...
bow...

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I need love, love
Ooh, ease my mind
And I need to find time
Someone to call mine;

My mama said
You cant hurry love
No, youll just have to wait
She said love dont come easy
But its a game of give and take
You cant hurry love
No, youll just have to wait
Just trust in a good time
No matter how long it takes

How many heartaches must I stand
Before I find the love to let me live again
Right now the only thing that keeps me hanging on
When I feel my strength, ooh, its almost gone

I remember mama said
You cant hurry love
No youll just have to wait
She said love dont come easy
Its a game of give and take
How long must I wait
How muck more must I take
Before loneliness
Will cause my heart, heart to break

No, I cant bear to live my life alone
I grow impatient for a love to call my own
But when I feel that i, I cant go on
Well these precious words keep me hanging on

I remember mama said
You cant hurry love
No, youll just have to wait
She said love dont come easy
Well, its a game of give and take
You cant hurry love
No, youll just have to wait
Just trust in a good time
No matter how long it takes, now break!

Now love, love dont come easy
But I keep on waiting
Anticipating for that soft voice
To talk to me at night
For some tender arms
Hold me tight
I keep waiting
Ooh, till that day
But it aint easy (love dont come easy)
No, you know it aint easy

My mama said
You cant hurry love
No, youll just have to wait
She said love dont come easy
Its a game of give and take...